Special CALM E-Report
How
To Change Habits Easily
Hullo,
I was talking to my friend,
Laurence Toltz, a few days ago and he asked
me whether I had
a summary of my techniques on changing
habits, that he could send on to other
people.
I
realised that I didn't have one. He
believed it was important to
have this for people who have not done my seminars or read my books, and
for those looking at my website for the first
time. A summary would help them to
more easily understand the concepts.
Laurence
and I got together and have produced the
following E-Report which explains in a simple
way the processes I teach. I
thought that this may be of
interest to you as a reminder of how my
system can help change habits. It
also occurred to me that you may like to
e-mail it on to friends who you feel could
benefit from it.
Introduction
Helping people to change habits
easily, effectively and without stress is
what my work is all about. Hundreds of
thousands of people now understand the
methods I teach through my books, tapes and
seminars and their positive stories of
success are my reward. The tools and
techniques are easy to learn and to apply.
Each time people use the "Changing
Habits" techniques, they
are relaxing and focusing on an issue in
their lives they wish to improve.
In our lives many of our habits
work well for us, but some cease being
helpful and may even work against
us, limiting our potential. If we can
keep doing what "works for us"
and replace habits that are not working for
us with habits that do work, we will enjoy
a better quality of life.
What I am about to explain is a
system to change habits or acquire better
habits, which is scientifically based, easy
to practise, takes very little time and has
been proven by tens of thousands of people
to really work. To implement the system
there is an online audio tape.
A
Four
Step System - It's Easy To Do!
Here are the four steps of the system
that can change habits, written in a way
that I think can be easily understood.
(Note that the word "goal" is
often interchangeable with "new
habit"). You will
then find the steps explained in detail.
First Step: Learn to relax
and focus in 30 seconds.
Second Step: State your new
habit in Positive,
Personal and Present Tense language.
Third Step: Visualise the
end result of achieving your new habit.
Fourth Step: Emotionalise
the new habit - this is a visualisation process that
triggers positive emotion and is a key in the
system of changing habits.
Fast
Track
For those wanting to fast track
this system, thanks to modern technology,
you can play a tape on-line called Peaceful
Place Tape No 2 - Guided Imagery which will
teach you Steps 1 and 4 above. The link for
the tape is at [click
here] It will
take you through all the steps so that you can start work towards
getting what you want with all your
power. The cost of this on-line tape is
just $8 (Australian) and comes with a 30
day unconditional money-back guarantee if
not fully satisfied.
Detail
For The First Step
Learn to relax and focus in 30
seconds. What is the benefit? The quick answer is to get
into our memory. Our memory is in our
deeper, inner mind where all our habits are
stored. When we relax, we go to a brainwave
state which opens the door to our memory.
This brainwave state is called Alpha. Steps
2, 3 and 4 all happen in the relaxed
state, in "memory" (which is
where you can create new habits faster).
You will learn to relax in 30 seconds
using the first side of the tape - a
Peaceful Place Tape No. 2 - Guided Imagery.
Detail
For The Second Step
State what you want in positive, personal language -
and use the present tense. Why is it so
necessary to use positive language? Your mind does not process
negative commands. For example, it will process
"don't forget your umbrella" into
"forget your umbrella". It will
process "don't worry" into
"worry". It ignores the word
"don't" and only retains the
action words "forget" or
"worry".
Also if you use negative self talk
or ask yourself negative questions such as
"Why me?", for that is what often
happens in our mind, then you begin to
focus on guilt and negative feelings and
this becomes self fulfilling and you will
feel more negative.
Let's go even further. In some
ways, it seems the job of the deeper inner
mind is to keep you where you are now, in
your comfort zone. Your inner mind does not
desire change, it is comfortable with all
your habits irrespective of whether they are good
or bad for you. In some ways it is like a
computer, it simply accepts the programs
you choose to install.
The good news is that you can help
towards changing the programs or habits in
your inner mind with good, positive
supportive self talk such as: when stressed
- to achieve relaxation: "I am
wonderfully calm and relaxed"; when
negative - to achieve being positive: "I enjoy always speaking
positively".
In Annex A you'll find a
number of common, correctly worded,
helpful, positive statements. Note - to change your
habits, you need to combine all four steps
of the system as one process.
This system is about implanting
thoughts such as these in your deeper,
inner mind.
The Third Step
Visualise the end result of
attaining your new habit. (Visualisation can be with any or
all of the five senses, plus imagination
and talking to yourself). You visualise yourself achieving and feeling good, remembering all
the reasons why you want this new
habit. Visualising the end result is an extremely
important step, for it sets up the feelings
of success.
The main points for this step to be
carried out successfully are:-
* You visualise with as many senses
as you are able to and include imagination and
talking to yourself.
* You visualise ...
1. Yourself as you achieve
your new habit, and,
2. All the reasons why
you want the new habit.
* When visualising the reasons for
your new habit, do so as though you have
already achieved it ... feeling
pleased that you have done so (this means
that you are using the Present Tense in
this process).
This sets up the good feeling - let this
successful feeling flow right through you.
The Fourth Step
Emotionalise your new habit.
Do this by a visualisation process that triggers a
strong, positive emotional feeling for
you. This is a key part of
the "changing habits" system . Why do we
use emotion? Strong emotions go
directly into memory, which is in the the subconscious
mind - emotion is the "language"
it understands. Have you ever wondered why you
remember all the good and bad things in
your life with such clarity and ease? It's
because of the emotion triggered by these
events. Words, sounds and pictures
are the "language" of the conscious mind.
Any kind of good, positive emotion
when combined with your positive statement
and your visualisation of the success of
the new habit, in the relaxed state, will help
you achieve it faster. By using an
Emotional Anchor you will add to a strong,
positive emotional feeling, which is
initially generated in your visualisation
of success. The four steps need to be repeated
in sequence, until your new habit is firmly
implanted in your memory. This needs
to be continued on a regular basis, so your
bad old habits don't return. You will learn
about how to build an Emotional Anchor on
Side 2 of the Tape - PP#2.
Why
Is Visualisation So Vital?
There is a very important reason
why you need to visualise yourself
achieving your new habit. One of the most
surprising things about the deeper inner
mind (the subconscious mind) is that it
cannot tell the difference between a
vividly imagined experience and what has
really happened to you. The process of visualising in great
detail (with all the right conditions as
described in Steps 1 to 4) is accepted by
the inner mind as a real experience,
because it does NOT know the difference
between imagination and reality.
After the subconscious mind has
accepted your repeated vividly imagined
experiences of achieving your new habit, then
the subconscious along with the conscious
mind, work together to help you to do what
needs to be done to achieve your new habit. Just
keep practising the four steps and within a
short time the new habit you are visualising
will start to take over from the old habit
you wanted to change. Also - your resultant
self talk (the talk that goes on inside
your head day-to-day) will be more positive
and supportive. Your repeated visualisation of the
imagined experience of achieving your new
habit is the key to changing deeply ingrained
behaviour.
Dispelling
Negative Thoughts
Here's a helpful hint to dispel negative thoughts that
just pop into our minds. Acknowledge
the thought and congratulate yourself on being aware of it (if you are not aware of
it then you can't do anything about it).
Next step is to let the thought go. My wife Sandra, just lets out a
big breath, blowing the thought away from
her. In my seminars, I suggest
letting the thought out through the top of
your head and then watch it going up and
away from you - or onto an escalator that
is going away
from you.
Or,
replace the negative thought by saying your new
habit immediately.
A
Very Special Offer
As mentioned before, you can access
on my website my tape called Peaceful Place Tape No.
2 - Guided Imagery which will teach you
Steps 1 and 4 above. [Click
Here]. When you have heard
this tape a few times, and worked out your
steps 2 and 3, you can put all the steps
together so that you can start working on changing
your habits.
The cost of this on-line tape is
one payment of $8 Australian that allows
you to listen to it on your computer as often
as you wish. This offer has a money-back
guarantee so you have no risk.
Thousands of others have used this
process to change their habits and improve
the
quality of their lives. If after the one month
trial period you are not satisfied - just email
us with your name, date of purchase, and
ensure you use the same e-mail address that
you gave to purchase the tape. We will then
credit back the $8
(Australian) with no questions asked.
So, at any time, or when you have
used and proved the system, please pass on
this email (or the link) to others you
care about and ask them what they think
about it. Most people want new ideas
that are easy to understand, don't take
much time and most importantly have been
proven to work.
Good
luck putting these techniques into
practice.
All the Best
Sandy MacGregor
PS. Please check out the links on my home page
[click
here] for success stories in many areas of
life. I have been
working in this field since 1990 and have personally conducted over 450 seminars - I
can assure you these easy-to-learn
techniques work fast if you practise them
on a regular basis.
Annex A
Do
you know how electricity works? Most
people don't! But they still use
it. Many may find the following goal
statements a bit strange at first, however,
as Dr Wayne Dyer suggests ... "Suspend
your disbelief". In our modern,
technical age, we don't need to know how
and why most things work to gain great
benefit from them.
What follows are a few good
statements said in positive, personal
and present tense language which will help
change habits fast:-
When stressed - to achieve
relaxation: "I am wonderfully calm and
relaxed".
When negative - to achieve being
positive: "I enjoy always speaking
positively".
When negative and lacking self
confidence: "I am, and I love being, a
positive, self confident person".
Some useful money habits: "I
invest 10% of all I earn for long term
growth."; "I am
abundant as I follow a system to retire my
debts and increase my savings.";
"I put my quality of life ahead of
spending."; (Check
out www.simpleliving.net/ymoyl/fom-about-summary.asp and then find the link that takes you to the
summary of the book Your Money or
Your Life or YMOYL - by
Dominquez and Robin).
To stop smoking: "I have
healthy lungs, clean breath and I save more
money."
For family relationships: "I
get great enjoyment as I spend at least one
hour each day with my family".
Achieving a degree: "I easily
achieve credits in my economics degree in
November 2004".
A good study habit: "I love
studying in Alpha for one hour each
day".
For releasing weight (allow 1
kilogram per week) and do this with PP Tape
No. 8: "I love weighing 84 kilos by
July 2003".
A small percentage of things we do
delivers outcomes we value most: "I
enjoy taking daily, positive action on the
few things that deliver the most value
outcomes in my life". (Check
out www.the8020principle.com/main.Asp?Page=8020psum
for a summary of The 80/20 Principle
by Richard Koch).
Achieving as a batsman: "I
easily stay focused as I amass the runs I
need".
For piano: "I easily play
perfect scales".
For an athlete: "I enjoy
achieving my personal best by running 100
metres in ?? seconds".
Success Stories
Since using your techniques I
have made a "career move". I am
no longer the harassed mother at the
supermarket, come on you've all seen me! I
am now the assertive, positive listener,
creating a happy environment. My new career
has taken on a new dimension, I am the
"Supermum" I want to be, not the
one society expects me to be. I am
now responding to my inner needs and
expectations not society's - mine are
realistic goals set by me - I can only
succeed.
Primarily we teach by our actions, not
words; by using the relaxation methods I am
enriching my life and the lives of my
children. I have come to realise how
powerful positive parenting can be. My goal
was so high it wasn't immediately evident.
I didn't even think I had one, but it was
sitting there waiting for me to grow into
it. With the help of your seminar I have
made my first step towards that goal by
helping my children be at peace with
themselves and each other. Imagine if we
could create a generation, a world, to
become at peace with themselves and each
other, and we are all capable of that, now
that's an incredibly powerful thought. My
latest emotion of joy is now locked into my
subconscious when my 3 year old son said:
"Mummy I like you!" I felt a
great peace spread through me, suddenly I
knew I already had what I was looking for
and with my new found positive approach I
could really start to enjoy it.
JT, NSW
The system is so easy. On the weekend there
were many things that I had already
discussed/learnt before, but you have
brought the whole thing together in a
systematic and easy to use way. As someone
who has a PhD in science and someone who
has been a corporate and small business
manager and someone who has been exposed
over many years to the metaphysical, let me
say that you did a brilliant job of pulling
all these elements together in an easily
useable and non-threatening way.
I also appreciate the high and professional
way you use your training and marketing.
All the best. I hope many, many more people
accept your ideas. Thanks, TP, Vic.
Following the seminar I realised Sandy's
techniques have become automatic for me. I
don't think about them.
I was approximately 6 months down my
healing journey when I discovered Sandy's
book "Piece of Mind". Sandy's
system demonstrated how I could take
control and make a huge impact on my
recovery.
Attending the CALM Life Skills Seminar was
a turning point for me as the techniques
learned gave me the tools to help myself in
all facets of my life. When faced with
survival or not, there was a strong resolve
to invest the time practicing my Peaceful
Place (PP). It is only now that I have
realised I don't think about going to my
PP, I just automatically do it.
I go to my PP while waiting for
appointments, prior to encountering new
situations, making important telephone
calls, to remain centred and be able to see
situations as they are and not become
caught up in the emotion of the event,
prior to meditation, prayer and any
activity requiring total concentration,
every chance I have to just sit, and every
night before going to sleep. As I now do it
automatically it doesn't seem much. It has
maximized my body's natural healing
energies, has had an enormous impact on my
coping skills, energy levels and my health
and well-being. It is a major factor in me
being as well as I am today.
The Forgiveness tape is so powerful. When
next I met the person I forgave it was
unbelievable. The atmosphere was so
different. I was received as a long lost
friend and our relationship has not looked
back. What a relief, yet so easy thanks to
Sandy's tapes.
All the very best for practicing your PP.
Invest the time and effort and it will
become automatic and life changing. Thank
you Sandy for sharing your wonderful
techniques. WG, ACT.
What's On?
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