I can't get to my Peaceful Place any more because when I sit on the beach and look out to the sea there is a big brick wall built right along the beach which prevents me from seeing the sailing boat with two red sails. What do I do
Recognise that what the subconscious mind is doing here is "keeping you where you are now", which of course is its job. In other words, what it's attempting to do is to sabotage you from being able to get to your Peaceful Place because it doesn't want the new habit of being able to relax and release stress in less than 30 seconds. The next time you go to your Peaceful Place, go down to the brick wall and punch a hole in the wall, and put a window in it. Then come back to your spot on the beach, look through the window, and see what happens.
(Note from Sandy - This was an actual experience and I got a call back saying that as soon as he looked through the window, he saw the boat with the two red sails, and then the brick wall disappeared.)
When I do seminars I always tell the above story, and one day I got a telephone call from a 16 year old girl saying - "My Peaceful Place is totally destroyed. It's a cave, up in a mountain, and I've done it out like my house. My focal point for my Peaceful Place is my bed. My bed collapsed, and I thought back to the story about the man and the brick wall across the beach. So I decided, not to worry, I'll build a stronger bed. The steel bed collapsed. Not to worry, I sat on a carpet on the floor. The carpet flew out the window. I thought I'd give it one more try so I sat in front of the fire, but the fire spat at me. Now what do I do?"
This was a special case. I asked the young lady, what was her journey to her Peaceful Place. She had a wonderful imagination, and described how she used to line herself up in front of a hill where she could just see the windows of the cave up in the mountain and then she pressed a secret stone key, and the mountain opened up. She went in to the mountain and it was like Disneyland, and she got on to one of the rides, with the music going, loving every moment of it, and this ride took her all the way to the back of her Peaceful Place. I said - stop there. What I want you to do is to make your new Peaceful Place focal point the chair of your musical ride. Just to explain why this will be okay - I have measured many people on the electro-encephalograph and most of them are in the Alpha brainwave state as soon as they start their journey towards their Peaceful Place. With your imagination, I'm sure that you'll be in the Alpha state as soon as you start your journey on your ride. Remember, the purpose of Peaceful Place is to get you to Alpha, so that you open the filter, so that you can get back to memory and habits.